Nothing really matters, unless it matters to you

I think that none of what we do truly matters. I’m under the belief that mankind has a time limit, and I don’t believe in any sort of afterlife. Therefore, in the grand scheme of things, what I do doesn’t make a difference.

It doesn’t matter if I take out the trash tomorrow.

It doesn’t matter if I put all my money on red and win.

It doesn’t matter if aliens abduct me this very second and drag me away from everything I know.

I’ve had soooooooo many people tell me that it’s a sad mindset to have. That there’s nothing to look forward to after death, or that I have nothing to look forward to in life. I mean, if nothing matters then why should I care about anything whether living or dead?

Honestly, I’m grateful to have this mindset. I don’t have an afterlife to worry about being accepted into, I don’t need to worry about how many times I fail, or how many times I succeed because it won’t matter later.

It allows me to be free from the burdens that we as humans create for ourselves through abstract thinking. All I need to worry about are the things that I truly assign value to.

Yes, although nothing really matters in my opinion, I can still assign value to aspects of life. This means that although it might not matter to the universe in the end, it can matter to me.

For instance, I love spending time with my son. I value that, highly. I don’t care how irrelevant my life is in the future, I can still enjoy time with my son at this very moment. I could seriously write a book on how happy it makes me to hear that kid laugh and to see that smile. I’m sure all you great parents know what I’m talking about!

I really don’t know how to explain it, but my beliefs are incredibly freeing for myself. It means I can fail to meet all my goals, and yet, it won’t make a difference in the end. It takes off a lot of the weight that I used to put on myself. Sure, I will probably be disappointed in myself if I fail to hit even one goal. I’m going to be honest, that would be pretty depressing.

However, it’s this mindset that tells me it’s ok to go out and attempt to accomplish everything that I’ve ever wanted. To live with no regrets. To leave no goal un-attempted. If it won’t make a difference at the end of mankind, then I truly have nothing to lose.

My mindset allows me to be a risk taker. I have spent most of my life playing it safe. I think this has been one of my biggest mistakes thus far. Honestly, I still engage in this mistake on a daily basis. It makes me angry with myself. However, I am only human after all. Creating a change in yourself is much easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

I can work towards making that change daily.

I envision my future self spending all his time doing memorable things with my future family, giving back to others, making a positive change in the world, and driving a sweet sweet Lamborghini. I want to add value to other’s live. I want to give my family a life that will be filled with extraordinary moments. I want to speak out without regard for other’s opinions about myself.

Honestly, I could go on and on about what I want to do, but that doesn’t really matter. What matters is actually getting out there and doing it.

It’s the same for you as well. Don’t be afraid to get out there and go after the things you want in life. If you have similar views to myself, then you’ve really got nothing to lose. If you believe in an afterlife, then again, what’s it matter if you fail when you’re sitting upstairs sipping on piña coladas with the big G after it’s all over?

You can achieve anything you want. Forget the nay-sayers that are claiming you can’t do it or that the risk is too great, you can do it. At worst, no one will remember your name in 3005 like the vast majority of others.

Be smart, work hard, and you will achieve.

Stay motivated.

DadDayswhite

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