It’s easier said than done.
Hopefully at some point in your life you’ve been told this gem, “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”. If you have, then you already are familiar with this part of the co-parenting dynamic. If not, then you learned something new today. Yay!
Hearing the advice and following the advice are two completely different things however. It’s a lot easier to hear it than it is to actually follow it.
The relationship between co-parents can, without a doubt, get heated at times. It’s during these times that it’s easy to forget to keep your mouth shut when you don’t have anything nice to say.
I urge you to practice following this advice as best you can. It can go a very long way for not only your co-parenting relationship, but for your child as well.
Saying something negative to your co-parent is a sure way to damage the relationship. It doesn’t matter if you guys have a great relationship or a terrible one. Never do or say anything to damage the relationship in the form of an insult. This goes double if your child is present.
When insulting your child’s other parent in front of them, you’re technically engaging in parental alienation. This is a form of child abuse. Insults can negatively affect the child’s relationship with their other parent.
I know the last thing you want to do is harm your child.
This is why the simple advice of holding your tongue is so incredibly important for you to utilize. It does more than what you might think at first.
Plus, what do you get out of insulting your co-parent anyway? The satisfaction of hurting them, maybe? You should never want to harm anyone, no matter what they’ve done to you in the past. Learn to forgive. It’s hard, but it’s worth it.